4 Ways that Dads are Essential in the Lives of our Kids

Some women choose to be single parents.  Some TV shows laugh at dads and portray them as bumbling idiots.  Even some women who are married often treat their husbands as if they can’t do anything right – so they’d rather just do everything themselves.  Unfortunately, we are living during a time when many people don’t see that dads are essential.

4 Ways that Dads are Essential in the Lives of our Kids

 

Thing is, God set families up so that most children would be raised by a mother AND a father.  Why did He do that?  If God thinks that having a dad is important can we really be so sure that having a dad is redundant?!?

Most of us can feel in our heart that having a dad is essential to the well-being of a child.  And it turns out that statistics actually back up that feeling.  Children without a father in the home are almost four times as likely to be poor.  They also show higher levels of aggressive behavior.  They are at higher risk of being abused or neglected.  And they have significantly higher odds of incarceration later in life.

Dads are essential!

Having a father is essential for kids to reach their full potential.  

Children who grow up with a father have a higher self-esteem, have more academic achievement, and are less likely to become teenage parents.  Girls often marry men who are a lot like their fathers and boys try to emulate the behavior of their fathers.

So what is it that dads do that is so influential to their children?

4 Ways that Dads are Essential in the Lives of our Kids

Here are 4 Ways that Dads are Essential in the Lives of our Kids:

1 – Roughhousing

Believe it or not, roughhousing is beneficial to our children in many ways.  It helps our kids learn to be more flexible and to roll with the punches.  It also helps them learn problem-solving skills and gives them a chance to be physically active.

For older kids especially, who aren’t as open to being hugged by their parents, roughhousing gives them a chance to accept some physical touch in a way that is less threatening to their egos.

I know that my teen boys absolutely LOVE wrestling with my husband.  They’ve gotten so big and strong that he can’t even take them to the ground anymore without hurting himself – unless they give him some help.  So they’ll get down on their knees when asked and then the wrestling will resume.

2 – Encourage risk taking

Men, in general, are more likely to take risks in life.  Women love the feeling of security.  Men enjoy security at times – but they’re also more likely to push the boundaries in an attempt to get to that next level.  Dads are more likely than moms to allow, and even encourage, their kids to participate in somewhat risky behavior because they can see the benefit.

If a child is climbing a tall tree, a father will watch with pride while a mother will stand below looking upward and fretting that he’s going to fall.

If a child is afraid to ride his bike without training wheels, a mom is usually more content to let them stay on until they feel more confident… while a dad is likely to take them off and strongly encourage the kid to ride without them – even if that means wiping out a few times in the process.

4 Ways that Dads are Essential in the Lives of our Kids

 

3 – Security

Dads provide a sense of security to their kids.  They’re big and strong and kids know that when dad is around, the world will be a little bit less likely to harm them.  Fathers are supposed to be a dim reflection of our Heavenly Father.  God is our ultimate protector – and good dads are His representatives on this earth.  As a child, there’s nothing like getting hurt and having your dad scoop you up in his arms and make it all better.

4 – Play

As a homeschool mom, I spend all day long making lessons for my boys, teaching them, cooking for them, cleaning up after them, and just generally spending time with them.  So, you can imagine my surprise when one day, one of my sons said, “Mommy, why don’t you play with us like Daddy does?”

What?!?

I was shocked that he would even think that I didn’t play with them.  I spend SO MUCH time with them.  But do I actually play?  When our boys were little, my husband would get down on the floor and wrestle with them.  He would play matchbox cars with them.  He would act our silly characters in their home movies.  He played Nerf swords with them.  He tickled them until they howled for mercy.  There was no agenda to what he was doing – he was simply playing with them.

4 Ways that Dads are Essential in the Lives of our Kids

When I play games with my boys, I always relate it to something we are learning or some skill I want to teach them.  Dads just goof off with their kids for fun – and it makes such a difference in their lives!

Moms are often lauded for the role they play in the lives of their children – and for good reason.  Their care and nurture is necessary!  But dads are also essential in the lives of their kids.

What if Dad isn’t around?

If your children are in the unfortunate position that their father isn’t in their lives, all is not lost.  I would highly recommend you try to find a positive male role model who is willing to stand up and step in the gap.  Because churches realize how important dads are, there are often men who are willing to be mentors for children who would benefit from their presence in their lives.  Ask your pastor to recommend someone to you!

Kids who have a healthy relationship with their dad are set up to become much more successful and happy adults.  No matter what else is going on in our lives, we need to move over and make room for our husband to bond with our kids.  The next time your husband starts roughhousing with the kids and you’re tempted to stop him… don’t.  Dads bring something to our kids’ lives that us moms just can’t provide – and that something makes all the difference!

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3 thoughts on “4 Ways that Dads are Essential in the Lives of our Kids”

  1. Yes to all 4 of your reasons! Roughhousing with Daddy is their favorite thing to do when he gets home.

    I’m a homeschool mom, too, and have had that same comment. Guilty as charged — I tend to try to squeeze in that hidden lesson when we are playing and Dad just has fun. I need to work on that, I guess.

  2. You are so right. I missed out on a lot of that. When I was little my parents were divorced, I went with my mom and got a step-father. He did play and rough house with me some. It seemed as we got older we grew further apart. I wanted him to play basketball with me but he didn’t want to. Your article helps me understand why things have changed so much over the last 30 years. Thanks for the information.

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